We always intended to stay living at home until we got married. There were a few reasons for this. One was that we could save a lot more money to buy a house later. Another was that we're a bit old-fashioned about such matters. So much so that while we aren't super innocent (come on, we're human), we are of the wait until marriage type.
However. This summer has shown me that I can't continue to live at home. There are a lot of factors. I'll be 26 in two months. I live with my parents. Anyone can see that this is not a good combination. I also have a 20 mile drive to work. That's 40 miles a day. That's bad for the gas tank and the car. That's bad for the sanity and the patience, of which I already have very little.
My parents were gone for 3 weeks at the beginning of the summer. To say that Mat wasn't going to come and stay with me the whole time would be stupid. Really stupid. Of course he stayed. I would be the stupid one if I wasn't going to take advantage of such a thing.
You know what? It was really, really good for us. We felt it, and both his mom and sister commented on it. I think them commenting on it made me realize it even more. When I'm home with my parents I'm grouchy and irritable and I pretty much stick to my room. You know what else? Living in a bedroom the majority of the time makes one crazy. Perhaps it's worse lately because it's summer and I haven't been working, but during the school year it's not much different in the afternoon/evening and on the weekends.
Mat and I go out every Saturday night simply to get away. Even if we end up spending more money (a lot more money) moving out, we at least won't be spending the $100+ a month on going out. And we'll be eating healthier. Helloooooo wedding dress!!
And really, we're getting married in 10 months anyway. By the time we actually get a place, get some furniture, move, get settled, etc, the wedding will be 8 months away. In the end, are we really living together prematurely? Probably not. Are we going to still wait until marriage for that one thing, even if it's weird to be living together and not doing it? Yes, because we're strongly committed to that decision. Will we have less money saved? Yes. But will my sanity be saved? GOD YES, in more ways that one.